Sunday, 7 October 2018

We can't ignore it by Bill Kirton


By Amit6 - Own work, Public Domain, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=5238097

This is a replacement blog. I’ve withheld the one I wrote originally for reasons which I’ll try to explain.

That effort was triggered by reviews of a book chronicling the little contretemps between its author, Ms Stormy Daniels, and a rather prominent member of the administration of what used to be a major ally. In it, I looked at attitudes to the escort industry and how, in the course of researching one of my crime novels, my notions about it had been reshaped by the testimony of a highly articulate, very intelligent woman who’d worked as an escort for many years.

I offered no judgements on the Daniels/Other case, but tried to present a balanced (and, thanks to my source, informed) view on the varied nature of the transactions conducted between escorts and their clients.

But now, just over a week before the blog was due to appear, the news has shifted to the hearings about allegations concerning a Supreme Court nominee in the USA. And the distortions and fabrications being aired in his support, along with the absurd victimisation of his female accuser and the seeming carelessness about her suffering, have created an atmosphere in which I feel that it would be unforgivably insensitive to  express opinions that could (however wrongfully) be construed as a defence of such a disgusting, inhuman imbalance.

In the discarded blog, again and again, I went to great lengths to insist that none of my comments were meant to condone ‘escorting’ and that I recognised the appalling treatment handed out to women by inadequate, self-justifying men with the apparent support of a system that too easily identifies perpetrator as victim. And yet, in the present climate, however enlightened one’s readers, offering opinions which could be interpreted as evidence of support for male ‘entitlement’ would be utterly reprehensible.


I know that the Supreme Court issues are in no way connected with ‘escorts’ but they do highlight the persistence of the same false presumptions about the male’s sexual ‘rights’. Contemporary politics, here and elsewhere, may show signs of adherence to principles which are long outmoded but, gentlemen, droit de seigneur is no longer on the menu. Please grow up. 

10 comments:

JO said...

A million thanks for this - the narrative from America is even beginning to paint men as the victims (poor us, we can’t even look at a woman without risking a false allegation), which leaves abused women totally disempowered. We need men to be as angry as we are about what it happening.

AliB said...

Well said, Bill.

Susan Price said...

Yes, it's a relief to know that not ALL men are wailing, "But what about the menz?"

julia jones said...

Thank you Bill (and could there be a new crime novel on the way?)

Sandra Horn said...

Thank you, Bill.It feels as if a huge change is coming, and it is bound to meet resistance and, I fear, get nasty, but that won't stop it now.

Bill Kirton said...

Thanks for the comments. I confess I just don't understand how anyone can condone what's happening - and yet lots (including, incomprehensibly, some women), do. And then there's the fact that, despite the blatant, unforgivable criminality of it all, the 'system' not only rewards the transgressors but makes sure their influence will continue for years to come. The way things are, progress seems impossible.
(And, Julia, I don't think any of the nasty people I've dreamed up could hold a candle to the real life villains we're talking about here.)

Susan Price said...

Yes, 'Women For Trump' pass my understanding, Bill. But then, so do women who vote Tory.

Umberto Tosi said...

Here, here, Bill! Bravo. Thanks for speaking out. It's all we can do until we rid ourselves of these patriarchal, parasites.

Dipika Mukherjee said...

Bravo, Bill, for this enraged male voice. Brazil is buying into Trumpism next, just dismal news worldwide.

Bronwen Griffiths said...

Thanks Bill. Male voices like yours are very important for all of us.