The Power of a Negative Word by J. D. Peterson

Let me explain.
It’s morning, and you’re on your way out the door, and your partner say’s, “Don’t forget your lunch.” Why don’t we say, “REMEMBER your lunch,” instead?
You had a meeting with a person of authority, like a police officer or a judge. Your friend asks if you were nervous and you respond; “I wasn’t afraid.” Instead of saying, “I was very brave, and all went well,” WHY does our language default to a negative response?

But why is emphasis landed squarely on the use of a negative word?
How happy are you?
“I’m so happy, I can’t stand it.”
“I’m so happy, I could just die!”
“Just slay me, I’m so happy.”
Really? No wonder the English language is confusing to folks whose native language is not English. And again, that doesn’t even begin to address the use of idioms.
Occasionally when reading a novel I run across a sentence that has so many negative words being used to reinforce a positive statement, that I get confused. It becomes necessary for me to pause, and dissect the sentence in order to determine if it is a positive or a negative statement. Jeepers. (I’ve searched for an example, but one alludes me at the present moment.)
Did you know that hypnotists, when writing a script for a client, are very careful not to use ‘negative’ words like no, not, can’t, don’t, won’t etc. ('Never' is acceptable because it is a time period. Forever, ever, today etc.) Hypnotists claim that the human brain does not process negative words and will cancel them out, which is why when they write a script for a person they will always use the positive form of a sentence or phrase.

If this is true, then why do we communicate with each other using so many negative words to emphasize our feelings?
If we keep yelling at our children; “Don’t throw that ball inside,” and they’re not obeying our command, could it be because they are actually hearing, “Don’t throw that ball inside.” Would we do better to say; “Take that ball outside on the lawn.”
What do you think? As a writer, I’ve been pondering this simple observation.
How could I not?
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Comments
I heard them say DO NOT quite plainly. I knew exactly why they didn't want to do whatever it was. I understood what the consequences would be if I was caught. (A shouting at and, possibly, a thraiping.)
I disobeyed because I wanted to and I calculated that they either wouldn't find out or wouldn't know it was me.
I can see how the positive statement might work better with hypnotism, that the half-dreaming mind would respond better to, "You want to be free of smoking," than, "Do not smoke." But I'm not convinced about it in other circumstances.
What do others think?
Just as wearing my parent hat I'd know that if I told my kids 'Do not throw that ball indoors' I would know full well that if they carried on it was an act of deliberate defiance.
Positive statements have their place but not all the time. But the nuances of inventive phrasing tell you a great deal about the speaker; their background and character and intentions. In the same way, by useing those differences in speech patterns, a writer gives their characters a different voice. Just a thought.
Makes you think!