Staying Sane: N M Browne
Whenever I go on Facebook, which, because I am a
procrastinating, distraction seeking excuse for a human being, is all too
often, I come across something connecting writing with poor mental health. Back
in 2012 the Karolinska institute found that writers had a higher risk of
anxiety, bipolar disorder, depression, substance abuse and schizophrenia. They
or rather, we, are also twice as likely as the general population to kill
ourselves.
I’ve often wondered whether people with these
disorders are drawn to writing as a way of dealing with their disorder or if
writing itself produces it .I mean it can’t be that healthy sitting alone in a
solipsistic universe, killing off characters and reopening old wounds or as Ernest Hemingway would have it, opening a vein and bleeding.
The job itself, with its isolation, its constant rejections, obliges the writer
to believe in their own talent in spite of all evidence to the contrary. Worse,
we are constantly bombarded with the evidence of other people's creative
success. And the successes are never as good as us.
Sylvia Plath, herself the patron saint of all
depressive geniuses, pointed out that the worst enemy to creativity is self
doubt and, as in the creative world everything conspires to make us doubt
ourselves, it isn’t surprising that our creativity is a fragile thing: we can
spiral downwards in ever decreasing vicious circles to disappear down the plug
hole of despair, or up our own backsides. Most of us don’t make any money
either, so we live under financial as well as creative pressure. I think
it's fair to say that writing as an activity is not particularly
conducive to mental stability.
As I know quite a lot of writers, of
varying degrees of sanity, my feed is often stuffed with platitudes - to the effect
that the cracked let in more light or some such, a celebration if you like of
our common strangeness. I get it. With all the bad stuff and vulnerability it’s
nice to be part of a tribe, an alliance of souls who are somehow more sensitive
and wiser than other people. Some beginner writers feel the need to become egocentric, melancholic and alcoholic in order to be 'real' writers. I don’t buy that. Nobody in
their right mind would want to be mentally ill: even those who aren’t in their
right mind don’t want to be mentally ill. Let’s not pretend its a prerequisite
for genius and focus instead on helping people to get better.
Given all this, I was interested to come across
an article recently which seemed to claim that making stories up about people
was, in fact a remarkably healthy way to deal with the world. Of course it
wasn’t talking about us special people but ordinary MOPs (Members of the
public) Apparently when someone is angry, red in the face and and screaming at you, the very best
thing you can do is to try to find a story that might account for their
response. You could for example imagine that they'd woken that morning to find their car clamped, their
partner copulating with the milkman on the sofa and their kitchen cupboards devoid of any kind of caffeinated beverage. It's no wonder they are upset. Trying to understand another human by contextualising their anger, by
story-making, helps people to deal with emotion in a way that promotes their
own continued mental health.
I liked that approach. I’m not sure how
practical it is but, nonetheless it made me regard my chosen job in a
different way. How does anyone learn how to make stories up about others but
by reading? Books allow us into the heads of others as nothing else ever does.
So, rather than focus on our own dodgy mental health we can see ourselves as
offering an empathy service to the world. Read us, learn about story telling
and lo, you will deal better with all the ordure that life throws at you. It’s
a thought.
And here's another:
http://time.com/4069899/anger-management-tips/?xid=fbshare
Comments
Before books, you learned how to put yourself in the place of others by listening to story-tellers. Some lucky small children, who own adults able to tell them stories without a book, still learn that way - before progressing to written stories and widening their understanding.
We are the latest practitioners of a millienia-old craft. That's one of the stories I like to tell myself, anyway.
I wonder what the status of those first story-tellers was?
For me - the alternative would be to be openly rude to them, or - at least - to him. This way I can not allow him to bully me but not ruffle feathers.
Great blog. Books are cathartic for some readers and writers. As Susan has said above, it is a 'millennia -old craft' and we are lucky to put pen to paper or type the words that flow on the keyboard.
AND putting stories round people is a crucial part of being an empathic human. I wouldn't trade the lows of being a writer for the stability of not being a writer.